I think we as a community need to talk about a nice big word, motivation. It's the reason behind our actions. When you look at peoples actions in the lens of whatever may motivate them, you realize their actions may make more sense, or may be more easily brushed off, et cetera. I myself am motivated by things that may benefit me in the short or long term. That's probably why I have a folder full of incomplete scripts to download porn.
A really good case study is people's reactions of @BlueVM 's Feathur release. A lot of people praised it. Many of these people have motivations, such as enjoying the fact that there's now a new competitor, that it's license cost is lower than SolusVM's, that it provides an alternative to SolusVM. There's also people who have (possibly rightfully) tried to downplay it. Again, they have motivations to play here. Some have pride playing a role. Some dislike competition. Some (and I'd like to believe this is the case for an ultimately minimal amount of people) are just spiteful assholes.
I think we need to recognize those motivations for each person so that we can more effectively judge a person's actions.